One of the biggest issues that seems to come up when I’m working with people is the issue of whether they’re “enough” or not.
And you know, after much deliberation on the subject I’ve decided that there is a secret to the whole “Not Enough” thing – and that secret is that …
If you think you’re not enough…
You’re Right.
You see, there are only two reasons for whining about whether you’re enough or not.
Reason 1:
Is that you know, deep down, that you’re under-utlising your potential. You know you haven’t done the study, the work, whatever to be the person you could be.
Reason 2:
Is that you’re one of those people who needs constant positive reassurance from the people around you that everything is okay (you probably spend a lot of time telling people how fat, ugly and stupid you are … and your friends are probably sick to death of having to tell you you’re not).
But here’s the good bit – both of these are “easily” fixable.
If you haven’t done the work – stop freaking complaining and put your energy into being better. Ignorance is excusable when you don’t know any better … as of reading this – you do. Go and take the courses, do the work – focus less on the “Why haven’t I done this?” and more on the just doing it.
If you’re a positive reinforcement junkie, you need to become your own cheerleader. Depending on other people for your self-esteem is a deep, dark, dangerous hole that can never be filled. Stop relying on others. Tell yourself constantly how awesome you are. Use positive affirmations if you must.
More importantly – tell other people how awesome you are ALL THE TIME.
“Wow … why are you doing that?”
“Because I’m awesome … “
Nothing gets through to your brain that your serious quicker than making a public declaration of a stand point on anything.
Lastly – get over it.
You’re enough if you believe you’re enough. Period.
Well said!!